Christian views on dating and relationships dating someone with the same last name
On most college campuses, that likely puts the two of you in the same relatively small social circle.
Perhaps both of you are active in the same campus ministry, you go to the same church.
He leads us primarily by His Word, and we are to look there first and primarily for guidance about how to live and make decisions.
God does not ever "call" or "lead" His people into sin, or even into folly or biblically responsible choices. Choice one is to get married anyway and work your way through.
As to physical intimacy, many long-distance couples have told me that because they are not physically close to one another as often, they actually experience Um, no. Be deliberate about avoiding "marital" levels of intimacy.
If you've forgotten the cardinal rule of engagement, re-read "Tips for Engagement." Engagement is a great thing, but it's not marriage. Choice two is to stay in school and put the relationship on hold. Wait until a responsible time to start the relationship back up.
Where a relationship is shorter, accountability stronger, and the level of temptation, and the likelihood of sin, goes down.
I also believe that this recommendation applies with equal force to single men and women in college.Scripture calls Christians to "flee" from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians ), not to "see how difficult we can make the temptation and still prevail" or to "see how close to the line we can get without sinning." In my view, Scripture teaches clearly that there is to be romantic physical intimacy outside of marriage.No reasonable person would argue that physical temptation does not increase — a lot — the longer two people date who are attracted to each other and who grow to love each other.As to emotional intimacy, we live in the age of email, free long distance and unlimited any-time minutes, and cheap flights.
It's still really easy to "act married" emotionally, even in a long-distance relationship.If we act like we're married before we've made that commitment, we're defrauding (and sinning).